Richard věří, že skutečná modlitba začíná pozitivním "ano" a odevzdáním se Bohu a realitě:  

Když jsem v roce 1961 vstoupil do františkánského noviciátu, součástí našeho výcviku bylo učit se vyhýbat všem rozptýlením, odolávat jim a stavět se proti nim. Bylo to takové špatné učení, ale tehdy se tak jedině uvažovalo. Všechno bylo o síle vůle: celibát silou vůle, chudoba silou vůle, společenství silou vůle. Ale to, co potřebujeme, není síla vůle; potřebujeme sílu vzdát se vůle a důvěřovat tomu, co je. To je hrdinství! Bylo to marné a neplodné úsilí, protože pokud začneme s negativní energií, s "ne", daleko se nedostaneme (viz Římanům 7,7-11). To byl rozsah toho učení a ve skutečnosti to není vůbec žádné učení - je to jen "Nedělej to! Nic nedělej!" Když to slyšíme, ego okamžitě zatlačí zpátky. Sjednou máme silnou vůli a daří se nám, ale většinu dní se nám to sotva daří. [1] 

Známe starý šibalský výrok: "Nemysli na slona". Pokud se snažíme nemyslet, ten nebezpečný slon se nám do mysli vždycky znovu vplíží! Jen počkejte. Aktivně se proti něčemu stavět vlastně zapojuje a dodává tomu energii. Proto dobří duchovní učitelé říkají: "Čemu se bráníš, to přetrvává."  

Richard believes that true prayer starts with a positive “yes” and surrender to God and reality:  

When I entered the Franciscan novitiate in 1961, part of our training was learning to avoid, resist, and oppose all distractions. It was such poor teaching, but it was the only way they thought back then. It was all about willpower: celibacy through willpower, poverty through willpower, community through willpower. But what we need isn’t willpower; we need the power to surrender the will and to trust what is. That’s heroic! It was a fruitless and futile effort because if we start with negative energy, a “don’t,” we won’t get very far (see Romans 7:7–11). That was the extent of the teaching, and it’s really no teaching at all—it’s just “Don’t! Don’t do anything!” When we hear that, the ego immediately pushes back. Somedays we have strong willpower and we succeed, but most days we barely succeed. [1] 

We know the old shibboleth, “Don’t think of an elephant.” If we try not to, that dang elephant invariably sneaks back into our minds! Just wait. To actively oppose something actually engages with it and gives it energy. That’s why good spiritual teachers say, “What you resist persists.”  

Our first energy has to be “yes” energy. From there we can move, build, and proceed. We must choose the positive, which is to choose love, and rest there for a minimum of fifteen conscious seconds—it takes that long for positivity to imprint in the neurons, I’m told. [2] 

Richard advises “neither clinging nor opposing” as helpful when it comes to facing our distractions in contemplative prayer:  

If I had told my novice master that I wasn’t going to fight my distractions, he would have said, “So you’re going to entertain lustful or hateful thoughts?” But that would have largely missed the point. The real learning curve happens when we can admit we’re having a thought or feeling and see that it’s empty, passing, and part of a fantasy that has no final reality except as a lesson.  

We must listen honestly to ourselves. Listen to whatever thought or feeling arises. Listen long enough to ask, “Why am I thinking this? What is this saying about me that I need to entertain this negative, accusatory, or lustful thought?”  

We don’t have to hate or condemn ourselves for a thought or feeling, but we do have to let it yield its wisdom. Then we will see it is the wounded or needy part of us that wants these unhealthy thoughts. Our True Self, our Whole Self, does not need them, and will not identify with them.  

If we can allow our thoughts and feelings to pass through us, neither clinging to them nor opposing them—and without ever expecting perfect success—I promise that we will come to a deeper, wider, and wiser place. Even our inability to fully succeed is, in itself, another wonderful lesson. [3]